Love & Relationships
Instructions for Russell
(Your child does come with directions.) Your life will never be the same. It’s a lifetime commitment, you’ve made a commitment forever. I remember when my...
How the Diplomate Reminded me that Parenting is Great!
Watching a show like the “Diplomate” reminds me of why I was so happy to have children. There are several childless couples in this show and they are all...
How to Raise Responsibility
Action and Consequence Actions create more actions, sometimes as consequences, sometimes as meh. More often than not it’s a consequence that follows an...
How NOT to Give Gifts and some How Tos~
1. Don’t give someone a gift that you want. 2. Don’t give someone an 11.99 candle from Ross and then brag about your 500-dollar shoes. 3. Don’t give a gift...
Gaslighting equals Controlling the Narrative
Again, I’ve been watching this behavior all of my life and want to give good examples to help people identify when gaslighting is happening in their life....
Young Women Please Embrace Sex
I didn’t realize that so many young women have no idea how to treat their own sexuality. I thought it was either organic or by osmosis. I grew up with books...
Having Children, Or Not?
That is the question for young people today. I’m asking to comment on this question, as it is one that has occurred in my home many times. The very first...
And Then I Was Done
Mothering Addiction And You’re so Angry With Me Why? You could have asked me any question, at any time. You didn’t. Instead, you used the time to attack, to...
Rejection is not my Sadness
NGC1097 by ERIS Too much of my life in sadness. Living my life in fear of having sadness, running from one sadness to the next. There is this sadness that...
Integrity versus Despair
I don’t know what you have to do to get your thinking right l’il sis, but you gotta do it. It doesn't matter if they hated you behind your back. It doesn't...
What Price for Violating my Boundaries
You have to take care of yourself to take care of your relationship. If you are not consciously aware of your boundaries you can ruin your relationship with...
My Daughters Myself
Photo by Alexander Grey on Unsplash Rhea manages me, there is no if and or maybe about it. Last year I brought up vaccines (a subject we disagree about). She...
My Son Russell
And he doesn’t even like that; the first thing I ever gave him was his name, and he doesn’t like it. He goes by Russ. Russ & his Mother: JB Collection...
Good Question
When do you get to the point when mothering is secondary, like - NOT at the top of the list? Does worrying ever go away? When do I focus on me, yes me, and...
What you need to Know about Life in 2023
Serendipity is your friend. People are beautiful, but only if you believe it. A big smile helps. Changes don’t trickle in; they move with a big whoosh. Move...
My Baby, The Woman
As I bear witness to my granddaughter’s transformation, I reflect on what my mother told me. My granddaughter is changing into a woman. I can see the change...
What my life has taught me about Forgiveness: FORGIVENESS 2022
I have a long and complicated relationship with forgiveness. At first, I couldn’t do it because I equated forgiveness with allowing the other person to get...
We Always Carry Something From our Past, Into our Present
I was thinking about this today because I had the opportunity to buy something on e-Bay and I wouldn't. The reason is silly, I think. Back in 2010 (12 years...
The Subconscious Speaks
Have you ever been confused by your actions? The issue is that my heart wants something and I’m not making it happen. For many months I have been confused by...
9/19 The Best Day ~
It is the way of humans to see that each generation is an improvement upon the last. I remember that gorgeous day when she was born like it was yesterday. I...
To Honor my Disability
I Require that my disability is honored. And yet, you get angry with me because "I can’t". Your able-bodied self can’t imagine being disabled. You think I...
Mother’s Day
And I sure know what I am talking about. So, I am a mother, and I am old enough (62) that I don’t have a mother. Actually, it’s been 25 years since my mother...
Synchronicity
My grandson loves synchronicity. He is 11 years old, a computer genius and a lovely young man. When he sees it, he has to tell his mother all about it. I am...
Transforming Relationships
Johanna, who is my daughter, is the antithesis of me. I have always been the typical clean freak, always. I am also very organized. I needed to be, I was...
The Thing about Love: THAT IS IMPORTANT TO KNOW
Photo by Amy Shamblen on Unsplash I may know this thing that I am about to tell you about and at some time I forgot this thing. I remember now; this lesson. I...
O’ Beautiful, Child of Mine
I come here to these pages to work through my relationship with my daughter. There are not too many guidebooks on parenting adults. The guidebooks are always...
Love is Not Enough
All through this week, I've been getting the signal that loving people is not enough to make my relationships what I want them to be. My daughter left our...
Being Ignored
If you are ignored by a group of people; they just don't acknowledge you. How do you feel? It is a very strange experience and the resulting emotions are...
Parenting for Covid-19
We act like we can’t stand our own children What the hay? Everyone keeps meme-ing about giving teachers a jillion dollars and how hard it is to spend the day...
Incest
Vlad Kutepov with Unsplash If I didn’t understand trauma informed care, I wouldn’t understand her story. She told me that she couldn’t exercise because...
Child of Mine, I Have Words for You
Words, words, words. I have so many words for you, child of mine I have words for your child too I want to let you know what I know of the world I want to...
Love not Hate
To the Haters in this World Look, I get it. There is nothing fair or correct about the world we live in today. Every deck is stacked against us, from taxes...
Parenting 200
We begin parenting in earnest... As I get older and embrace being a grandparent, I see myself moving farther and farther away from parenting. What I have...