I didn’t realize that so many young women have no idea how to treat their own sexuality. I thought it was either organic or by osmosis.

I grew up with books like the Hite Report by Shere Hite. There are not as many good sex books in the national consciousness as I remember when I was young. Maybe that is why young women seem so ignorant about their own sexuality (not in a bad way).

A little bit of what I learned is that it’s important for women to be good friends with masturbation. It should be us, as women, who are most familiar with our bodies. I was 30 before I understood the placement of my urethra.

You should be the first person to lovingly caress your breast and touch your nipples. It should be you who free-flows ideas to come up with thoughts that are tantalizing and fulfilling to orgasm to. It should be you that learns the rhythms of your clitoris to begin to understand wanting and not wanting.

You should / must  / will enjoy doing to yourself all of the things that a good man will do to you. You will learn that sexuality is compelling and mystifying and completely central to a well-rounded life.

Having sex with someone that you care for will bring you well deserved stress relief in ways that you could not otherwise imagine. Stress relief is the smallest of the huge and important benefits of an intimate and touching love-life. Your ability to experience pleasure will be multiplied so much that you would never have imagined the pleasure that is available to people with a rich love life.

It’s up to you young lady to know the ways and nays of your body and that takes a lot of studying. Also, please don’t forget that there is a component that requires your brain to relax, lay back and you must leave your thinking on hold during this sacred time. Don’t be worried about your man, he’ll love the difference. Don’t forget that this is about your body, your life and your future.