Oct 26, 2024
Have you ever looked at someone’s school pictures and noticed a sequence of pictures where a dramatic change has occurred? It doesn’t look like a good change. The first picture is a laughing child and then the next picture is a not-child with a flat-eyed look?
1. You respond to a man’s request for sexual favors with a yes.
a. You’ve been dating for two nights and now you find yourself having intercourse. You literally can’t figure out why.
2. You feel unsafe unless you are wearing protective clothing.
a. You wear underwear always, even in bed, you like tights and pants and stay away from dresses. You may dress sexy, but you want it covered and in your own control.
3. You are sexual in inappropriate environments.
a. You dress sexy for the office.
b. You dress sexy for a first date.
4. You are overweight, no matter how hard you try not to be.
a. This occurs because, theoretically, women are not attractive when overweight, thus preventing future sexual abuse.
5. Women are jealous of you and it’s not because of your brain.
a. Your overt sexuality (not your fault) is an issue, especially if they suffer from no sexuality.
In my experience working with women substance abusers, the response to childhood sexual abuse is one or the other: boundaries all around, or wide open with no boundaries. Each response brings it’s own set of problems and consequences.